University is the first major chance most young people get to move out of their parents’ house and get a taste of the “independent, adult life”. It can make or break you; preparing your own meals, cleaning your own house, washing your own clothes. Well, I’m sure not everyone succeeds at these tasks as much as others do. But let’s be honest, student life is not “real, adult life”.
I moved out for the full three years of University and it was three of the most fun years of my life! After graduation I moved home, increased my hours to full time in my job and began life after university. I won’t lie, it was extremely difficult. My anxiety was through the roof, I was being told what to do rather than completing tasks at my own pace, and I was no longer with friends 24/7. My parents were only trying to help and tried their best to allow my independence but life was different.
I moved to Belfast for a month during summer 2016 to ‘test’ whether it was achievable on a budget. Once I had moved home again after my month in the big smoke, I made it my aim to change job roles and sign a lease on a house. In November 2016, I stayed in Belfast most of the time and finally signed a lease, living with 3 other girls, in January of this year to accommodate the 7am shifts, nightshifts and anti-social hours I was working a bit better. When I started my internship in June I was on top of the world, rent wasn’t such a burden, friends were in my house all the time, new recipes were tested every week, attending events was not a problem because the walk home was barely 10 minutes AND blogging was a breeze.
According to The Telegraph, “today millennials earn is as much as 20% below average” which has led to more and more graduates moving in with their parents. From experience, the most commonly ask question for graduates is “Oh, so are you buying a house once you’ve got a full time job?” My answer is usually, “well no, I want to move away for a while and gain some life experiences before I have to start paying a mortgage.” In addition to that answer, a lot of graduates aren’t sure of where they are going to settle, for instance, it took me a year to find a job related to my degree and my boyfriend is still yet to find a job relating to his degree. Therefore, graduates may have to move away to find a job that their University’s claimed would be so effortless to find once they had graduated. Scarily, in May 2017 the average house price was £220,713, over seven times the average salary of £27,600 (Land Registry).
SHOCK HORROR. The lease on the house was up at the beginning of September and I felt that my time in the house had come to an end. Lots of fun times were had, the house was lovely, but my anxiety hasn’t been great lately. I’m moving back in with my parents to try and settle my anxiety and save some money. In a few months time I’ll most likely move out again but to a one bedroom apartment (preferably).
My parents haven’t had Olivia and I living full time in their house for a year now, therefore they’ve become accustomed to an empty nest, more week night hobbies and a quiet atmosphere. They’ll probably have a reality shock for the first few weeks of my presence and believe it or not, having always been the non-chatty one in the Andrew household, the quiet house will remain – unless I come home drunk, stomping about like an elephant thinking I’m as quiet as a mouse.
In a way, moving home is a positive feeling. I’m looking at it as taking care of myself, my anxiety and my finances. If I move home for two months, I’ll save around £500 which I’ll put towards my “moving away” fund.
Until I find the perfect one bedroom apartment to rent at a price my internship wage can afford, I’m staying put with my parents. Who knows what could be in store!