Are you strong minded when it comes to making a decision or are you indecisive? I’m not talking about what to have for dinner or what to wear. Think whether or not to move out, or whether you should try that risky business opportunity.
When it comes to making important decisions, there always seems to be so much pressure placed on us. If we take moving schools for example. When I was in Primary 7, aged 10/11 (way back when) I had to make, what was made out to be, the biggest decision of my life so far: what “big” school I wanted to go to. Today, that age has been lowered to 9/10 year olds. The decision to go to a school that could affect your life decisions from here on out, is ridiculously scary for children so young. I will always believe, my anxiety stemmed from the 11+ exam. I got a ‘D’ in my exam which meant I couldn’t go to a grammar school, and to be honest, I’m so grateful that I went to the Secondary school I was accepted into. Is it fair that children are being made to sit so many exams at a young age and made to decide on such significant matters?
We may only be two months into 2018, but I’ve already made some major decisions. At the ripe old age of 22, I still find it scary that people assume I’m big and bad enough to decide for myself.
Decision: Get a New Car
I moved into a little house in Belfast, so far so good. I’ve just changed my car too, due to the fact I was preparing for my old one to fall apart when I was driving it. There was an emotional attachment to my old car. My Granda bought it for me when I turned 17 with the aim that it would last until I got my first grown up job. I suppose the impact was mixed because at one stage my anxiety went through the roof. My old car had troubled me for so long and I needed a new one STAT. I love the little car I got. It was my first adult decision because I’m paying the finance myself, so obviously it was the cheapest I could find too! There was a low point regarding the car, but I won’t go into that. However, now that the small issue is resolved, I’m in a really good place with my new car…as long as I can pay the finance each month- eeekkk, goodbye shopping sprees.
Decision: Move Out
Impact: Positivity in Relationships
In January I moved out AGAIN. This time it was different; not with loads of people, not a party house. I’m living in a little house with my bestie for the rest(ie). My family weren’t too happy with the decision, but part of my reasoning for going ahead with the move was to prove that I’m an adult who can pay my own bills, take care of myself, and remember to blow out all the candles before I go to bed. For me, what should be a scary decision really didn’t feel all that scary. I know I’ve done the right thing and the impact it has had has brought my parents and I closer together again.
Decision: Leave permanent job for an Internship
Impact: A refreshed CV, experience, new working relationships, enjoying life again
In June 2017, an internship was offered to me. It was related to my degree, my blog and the career path I aspired to follow. In this case, I jumped at the opportunity! However, internships are not permanent and soon I will have to start thinking about what to do next. Ideal world: I am offered a permanent contract and asked to stay with the wonderful company. Scary world: I have to start looking for new jobs because more university graduates need to be given the chance to gain experience in a corporate work place. There may be a big decision ahead of me…but stay with me for the next few months and we’ll see what happens.
Decisions will ALWAYS have an impact, whether they are positive or negative, you will never know until you make that choice. Decisions can be intimidating and that’s ok, people understand; take your time, weigh up the pros and cons, and make that leap if it feels right. Believe in yourself and your capability to achieve.
I searched through Pinterest for relevant quotes and the only one that seemed to make sense to me was “How will you know if it’s the right decision, if you never make it?” Ergo, I will be asking myself this each time a new decision comes my way.